Intimacy Anorexia

LINK: "Is your partner cold" article in the Daily mail newspaper.

 

MY COMMENT:

 

Intimacy isn't about talking, its about actions being louder than words.

 

‎"WITHHOLDING EMOTIONS - This means having difficulty sharing feelings, refusing to talk about hopes and thoughts about the relationship." I disagree. As this is one of the problems of viewing a couple because it can also from what is said be used as controlling. Secondly, a partner isn't a psychotherapist and thereby shouldn't have to deal with such behaviour; leave that to the experts. And lastly, there are personal boundaries on emotions which is a choice on whether it is shared or not, and shouldn't be an issue thats 'forced' into the equation of having a relationship.

 

‎"MAINTAINING DISTANCE - Anger or silence to push away, punish or control the spouse. Some are able to go weeks without talking to their other half." I disagree. Keeping distance has to be seen in context to the relationship itself. Firstly having distance can mean a time of reflection which is construed wrongly which has nothing to do with the partner, who's taking every single bloodly thing personally. Also secondly, distance avoids confrontation until such a time when the subject on their minds can be approached then rationally to their partner; if there is a problem that needs to be addressed, which might be nothing other than should one hold off from purchasing a new car or save for that holiday.